January 9, 2013 - Better You, Easy Outfits, Style

Progress, Not Perfection

In continuing with the resolution week theme, I’d like to share some unconventional thoughts about goal setting today.

I’ve always been a VERY goal oriented person.  Constantly setting and achieving bigger goals, then moving onto the next.  My December goal setting ritual is something that I relish every year.  But when I sat down to write out my 2013 goals last month, something didn’t feel right.

It all started about six months ago when I felt myself losing momentum but couldn’t figure out why.  The realization that all of this striving and pushing wasn’t really leading me to further contentment hit me like a ton of bricks.

All I really wanted to do was be here for my family, enjoying each moment of this season of life and being the best mom and wife I can be.

That realization changed everything.

I’ve stopped focusing so much on everything being perfect and have celebrated progress instead.

I’ve decided to detox my brain from the constant stimuli around me and get comfortable with periods of quiet time.

I’m working to accept this moment as enough and stop imagining some future where things will be radically different or better.

I’m focusing on one thing at a time instead of multi-tasking.

I’m letting go and letting God.  Ultimately I’m not at all in control of my destiny.  And all of the pushing, striving and goal setting in the world is not going to change what is already planned.

And most importantly, I’m putting everything in perspective that gets in the way of my primary goal of loving and serving my family.

“Life is a river with a purpose, taking you where you need to go. Forget trying to rush anything, or worse, swimming against the current.  Resistance is futile, stay afloat and enjoy the ride.” – Steve Mitten

[Trench Coat:  eShakti/Gloves:  Target (similar)/Sunglasses:  Michael Kors/Corduroys:  Nordstrom/Boots:  Target (old)/Earrings:  Rue 21 (similar)]

This gorgeous, beyond perfect trench coat comes courtesy of women’s custom clothier eShakti.  I had been searching for the right taupe, ladylike trench coat for a long time.  When I saw this one on their web site, I instantly fell in love with the button and collar details.

And it’s even more beautiful in person.  It’s just the right weight and has the perfect amount of subtle sheen.  This coat will be a go-to basic of mine for many years to come.  It fits like a glove thanks to eShakti’s customization.  All of their clothing is cut to fit your measurements provided at the time of ordering.  The best part?  Everything on their site is totally affordable.  I’m not aware of any other custom clothing company that’s able to sell at prices that every woman can afford.

Keep an eye out for this up and coming label.  eShakti has been featured in Vogue, Glamour and Woman’s World magazines.

I was provided with a free product for this review, however all opinions are my own.


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Getting my pretty on with The Pleated Poppy, Random Wednesday, Wardrobe Wednesday and Whatever, Whenever Wednesday, What I Wore Wednesday, Look What I Got, Keep Calm and Carry On, Aloha Friday, Casual Friday, Friday’s Fancies, Six Sisters Stuff

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  • Alison! I am laughing SO hard that we both chose the same coat!!!! Awesomeness!!!! 😉

  • It’s nice to put life into perspective and learn to slow down and appreciate the little things. I really started to realize this when Kayla got into high school and how much time flies! This is a fabulous trench. I love eShakti products. Everything that I have received from them has been great 🙂 Heather

  • Looking lovely! And I am with you and sitting back every once in a while. Tough to do with 3 kids isn’t it? 😉

  • Beautiful coat! I love it paired with the lepord print.

  • You look amazing!!! I love this entire look, it’s so ladylike and chic! The leopard gloves pair perfectly with the coat too!

  • How beautiful & elegant you look in that gorgeous Winter White Coat. Love your wavy hair too and the Hoops peeking from behind it. Also cute gloves for a touch of Leopard. I have very similar fleece gloves.

    Good luck with all your goals for 2013! I don’t really make any NY resolutions but this year the only thing I want is to be the best mom possible to my new baby, coming very soon! =)

  • Just found your blog from WIWW on the Pleated Poppy. How cute is this coat?! Love it. New follower!

  • Wow! How did I miss your site. I love the name, the post subject (unfortunately I am the complete opposite of you….I NEED to set goals in order to see my progress)….and I am in LOVE w/your pretty coat. Sigh….I found your site thru Because Shanna Said So. I will definately be following. Please come see me as well. Happy New Year!


  • such a chic look with that coat alison!
    have a great day!

  • This is absolute perfection. LOVE it.

  • Chrissy

    Gorgeousness! I have to have a trench like that! Such a timeless classic and you rocked it!

  • those gloves are so beautiful! they make the perfect statement with a classic look!



    i am also having an ily couture bracelet giveaway on my blog and i would love if you came and checked it out!

  • Karri

    So so gorgeous and elegant! It reminds me of Kate Middleton!

  • So in love with this coat, the design is very unique!!!!!! Love how you styled this look!

  • That coat and those gloves = LOVE!


  • stopping by from rolled up pretty today…love the look and great trench!


  • I love your attitude, Alison! You’re so positive and pragmatic. And I love your choice of coat here! The cut is gorgeous and the color is soft and elegant. Plus, you are just workin’ the camera on that beautiful bridge!!! ~Sarah

  • PS Just voted! Best of luck!!!
    PPS No linky today? 🙂

  • First of all, I am right there with you on letting go of things and let God be in control. It happens to all of us…trying to juggle so many things and never stopping to take in the “moment”. And, girl, you are looking fab today!!! Love that trench and those gloves!!!!

  • I love your coat. It’s gorgeous!


  • PJ

    Very well said. I too am struggling with putting things in perspective and not worrying so much about achieving all my goals. Love your coat, looks amazing on you.
    Good luck getting that quiet time.


  • the outfit is to die for! Great combo of the coat with the gloves! love it!

    I switched over my linky party to reflect more fashion & refashion! this month the theme is Scarves and Accessories! Love for you to check it out! http://www.brassyapple.com/2013/01/i-spy-refashion-january-scarves.html

  • good luck with your goals! i have just started a new job with sales targets so i feel really driven right now, its actually a nice feeling!
    Love this trench. they are the classic coat that never goes out of fashion and always looks chic. you look beautiful in yours! xx

  • So I am totally loving the gloves. That hit of bold print with the elegance of the white jacket. UM LOVE!!! Tres Belle!

    Nike O.

  • Love that trench and your hair looks amazing!
    ✰Transatlantic Blonde✰

  • You look super pretty! I lov the coat and gloves!

  • Giovanna

    Cute look! Loving your coat and leopard gloves! I completely see where you’re coming from and agree with you. I’ve always been a super planner and overanalyzer, but I’ve come to realize that sometimes you just have to let go. Just go with it and do something you want without weighing every single little option!


  • I found your post through a comment that you left on Karen’s blog today. Your post title is identical to one I wrote recently, and I wanted to share:


    I’m a planner/goal-oreinted gal like you, and this phrase helped me make a much needed paradigm shift. Enjoy living in the moment and celebrating the little victories and quiet moments.


  • That coat does look lovely!! And I love your gloves, too…a little leopard thrown in the mix is purrfect! (Sorry…couldn’t help the pun!)

  • You look gorgeous! Everything from your hair and chic sunglasses to that beautiful coat and fun gloves- so elegant and put together! Love it!

  • You look like a movie star! Just gorgeous. The sunglasses, the coat, the gloves…perfection 🙂

  • Love that gorgeous coat – and your gloves too! I’m with you on doing less and focusing more in 2013 – I think that’s a great goal!

  • gorgeous – the collar is amazing. one of my words for this year is responsive – leaving room in my life to be responsive to God, My Hubby and My Kids – the most important ‘projects’ I have.
    Thanks for being a Wardrobe Weds player this week.

  • You like simply lovely and these words definitely ring true to me as well. Thanks for the reminder of what to keep in focus for 2013!

    Haute Child in the City

  • What a great eShakti trench!!! I also had the pleasure of working with them…..& I loved their distinct customization process!!!


  • you are simply beautiful – can i PLEASE have your hair!?!? loving your blog!

  • That coat is just gorgeous, I love it! And your leopard gloves are pretty fabulous too. Thanks for linking up!

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  • I don’t think I knew eShakti did coats
    I have to go check this out
    You are looking oh so Kate Middleton today
    Love it

  • OMG This outfit! And the crazy thing is it’s ALL about the coat! And maybe those gloves! The whole enchilada! I have those boots and I adore them. Sadly, the heels are down to the posts and I don’t know if a cobbler will be able to repair them. I’ll probably cry.

  • Beautiful post, it resonates with me in so many ways. I’m such a driven person, so I completely see the need to let go of the striving and rest in Him. I recommend a devotional called Jesus Clalling, they are short daily devotions that have kept me more grounded and rested. Oh and I am loving that trench oat, you look beautiful!

  • Those gloves is to kill for, and so is your hair!

  • Jan

    Loving the gloves! Found your blog through the link up!



  • Love the leopard gloves… how fun! Glad I came across your blog… I love it!

  • I’m loving your leopard gloves! If you get a sec, I’d love to hear your thought on my latest post. xo


  • love this outfit ,amazing coat¡



  • Love the gloves with it. Great thoughts. I’m with ya on the enjoying every moment. I voted for ya!

  • I love how you put it all together and definitely the pop of leopard with the gloves 🙂

  • Good day, awesome internet site you’ve gotten there.