Progress, Not Perfection

In continuing with the resolution week theme, I’d like to share some unconventional thoughts about goal setting today.

I’ve always been a VERY goal oriented person.  Constantly setting and achieving bigger goals, then moving onto the next.  My December goal setting ritual is something that I relish every year.  But when I sat down to write out my 2013 goals last month, something didn’t feel right.

It all started about six months ago when I felt myself losing momentum but couldn’t figure out why.  The realization that all of this striving and pushing wasn’t really leading me to further contentment hit me like a ton of bricks.

All I really wanted to do was be here for my family, enjoying each moment of this season of life and being the best mom and wife I can be.

That realization changed everything.

I’ve stopped focusing so much on everything being perfect and have celebrated progress instead.

I’ve decided to detox my brain from the constant stimuli around me and get comfortable with periods of quiet time.

I’m working to accept this moment as enough and stop imagining some future where things will be radically different or better.

I’m focusing on one thing at a time instead of multi-tasking.

I’m letting go and letting God.  Ultimately I’m not at all in control of my destiny.  And all of the pushing, striving and goal setting in the world is not going to change what is already planned.

And most importantly, I’m putting everything in perspective that gets in the way of my primary goal of loving and serving my family.

“Life is a river with a purpose, taking you where you need to go. Forget trying to rush anything, or worse, swimming against the current.  Resistance is futile, stay afloat and enjoy the ride.” – Steve Mitten

[Trench Coat:  eShakti/Gloves:  Target (similar)/Sunglasses:  Michael Kors/Corduroys:  Nordstrom/Boots:  Target (old)/Earrings:  Rue 21 (similar)]

This gorgeous, beyond perfect trench coat comes courtesy of women’s custom clothier eShakti.  I had been searching for the right taupe, ladylike trench coat for a long time.  When I saw this one on their web site, I instantly fell in love with the button and collar details.

And it’s even more beautiful in person.  It’s just the right weight and has the perfect amount of subtle sheen.  This coat will be a go-to basic of mine for many years to come.  It fits like a glove thanks to eShakti’s customization.  All of their clothing is cut to fit your measurements provided at the time of ordering.  The best part?  Everything on their site is totally affordable.  I’m not aware of any other custom clothing company that’s able to sell at prices that every woman can afford.

Keep an eye out for this up and coming label.  eShakti has been featured in Vogue, Glamour and Woman’s World magazines.

I was provided with a free product for this review, however all opinions are my own.


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