April 3, 2013 - Better You, Easy Outfits, I Feel Pretty, Style

I Feel Pretty | Good Enough

I’m going to get really real with you today.

One of the biggest struggles of my life has been this nagging belief that I’m not good enough.

It’s effected me in big ways since I was a young child.  In elementary school, I was shy and reserved, afraid to speak up, yet desperately wanting attention.  In junior high and high school, I let it hold me back from doing things I would’ve loved, like trying out for big parts in plays or singing solos.

I always wondered why anyone would pick me.

This belief followed me into adulthood, but something changed.  Instead of letting it hold me back from trying things, I started to do them anyway.  Including going after my lifelong dream of being an actress.  Still, “not good enough” tagged along to every audition, sizing up my competition and often defeating me before I even walked in.

The blogging world can really bring out this insecurity.

There are comparisons to be had everywhere.  While most days I have the “not good enough” demon in it’s rightful position, it still rears it’s ugly head.

When I found out that I had been selected by Wallis as one of the 28 bloggers to compete to be their U.S. ambassador, I was ecstatic.  That feeling didn’t last long before “not good enough” started talking.  As soon as I saw the other bloggers in the competition, I knew that this would be a real challenge for me.  I’m one of the newer blogs on the block, I don’t have as many followers.

This post is supposed to be about the reasons why I think I should be the Wallis ambassador.  Instead when I sat down to write it, “not good enough” started telling me all of the reasons why I shouldn’t, like…

  1. I’m a mom of three way past her 20’s.
  2. I have curves and am not stick thin.
  3. I’m not a high end style blogger.
  4. Most of my outfits are under $100 total.
  5. I have no formal fashion training.
Then something dawned on me.

The reasons why I should be Wallis’ U.S. ambassador are all of the reasons that “not good enough” told me I shouldn’t.

I’m a real woman and a real mom, I have a real body and I shop on a real budget, I wear what feels good to me and makes me feel pretty.

And that is exactly what makes me good enough.

[Blazer:  Wallis/Scarf:  Wallis/Shirt:  Target (similar)/Jeans:  Target/Shoes:  Target (similar)/Sunglasses:  Michael Kors]

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Do you think I’m good enough too?

If so, I would love it it you would stop by and vote for me to be the first U.S. Ambassador for Wallis.  All you have to do is click the button below.  You can vote every day.

I Feel Pretty

It’s time for this week’s I Feel Pretty link party but first let’s take a look at last week’s Pretty of the Week.

She’s Bonnie of Delusions of Grandeur!

Her gauzy mint dress, nude pumps and beautiful blue pashmina make for the perfect ladylike date night look.

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Link up your outfits or anything else that makes you feel pretty. There are just a few simple rules:

1. Follow GYPO. (Facebook, Twitter, Bloglovin‘)

2. Link up your pretty post.

3. Link back to my blog (using the button above or your own link).

4. Visit other pretty peeps.

That’s it! Let the fun begin.

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Getting my pretty on today with The Pleated Poppy, Shanna, Stylelixir, Wardrobe Wednesday, Whatever, Whenever Wednesday, Target Thursday, Aloha Friday, Fashion Informant, Falling for Friday, Friday’s Fancies, Casual Friday

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70 Comments

  • I love an honest post! There is nothing worse than a fake blogger. Nothing! Good for you friend! And…I’m not sure you’ve ever posted an outfit that was more me (unless you have a short shorts and wedges post that I’ve missed…because let’s face it, that really is me!). I love your look today and I’m so hoping you get picked by Wallis!

  • Megan Andrews

    Oh lady, do I hear you on the self-doubt! For what it’s worth, I think you are the perfect combination of relatable and aspirational and that is why your blog is going so well and people like those at Wallis are taking notice! Now, excuse me while I go and reactivate my Facebook page so I can vote for you…

  • I’m with Shay…..this might be your favorite outfit of mine to date! The outfit is amazing and the pictures are gorgeous!!!!!! Okay…gotta run….off to vote!!! 😉

  • You go girl! You are real and normal which is what most of us normal people like. Best of luck!

    p.s. I can’t link up today for some reason?

    • forget it…I am just an idiot and didn’t have the right link 🙂

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  • I love the pattern mixing and that gorgeous scarf on you! I have always felt exactly the same way. My husband keeps telling me not to be so hard on myself, but it’s hard when you’ve been thinking that your whole life. Have a great week gorgeous!
    walkinginmemphisinhighheels.com

  • LOVE this outfit – especially the jeans. And I really appreciate your honesty. I compare myself to other bloggers all the time – it can get so toxic. It definitely takes a certain discipline of mind to shove those thoughts away and focus on just being yourself. You are *definitely* good enough for the Wallis competition 🙂

  • You are MORE than good enough, and I love your honesty in this post. Not to mention the combination of the striped top, patterned scarf and bright blazer is awesome! You’ve got my vote, no questions asked 🙂

  • Yeah I know I have missed out on a lot of great opportunities myself because of insecurities that I created myself. At least you recognize it and aren’t letting it define you anymore. I have voted daily and will continue too. Wish that 24-hr limited time frame wasn’t there though.

  • Love this post. Insecurity can really make you believe some lies about yourself… Good for you for turning it around and seein the truth! Oh, and I LOVE your outfit!

  • Alison, thanks so much for the sweet shout out! I struggle with the exact same things you do when it comes to blogging – the nature of it makes it so hard not to compare ourselves with others. But you are absolutely right that what makes you “you” makes you good enough! Headed over to vote. 🙂

  • I love your blog and your style!! I’ve had the same problem with not being good enough. Thanks for writing this post and you got my vote!!

  • 1. I love a good honest post, and this was beautifully written. Just the right amount of raw emotion without being TMI. Thanks for sharing your heart with us.
    2. “I’m a real woman and a real mom, I have a real body and I shop on a real budget, I wear what feels good to me and makes me feel pretty.” Is the very reason I keep coming back to your blog!!!! Your style is approachable.
    3. If this outfit isn’t good enough, I don’t know what its! I don’t know what I love most about it, but I think those sandals are calling my name. 🙂

  • Congratulations and You ARE Good Enough!

  • Ada

    ALISON – YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL INSIDE OUT. This post was so honest, refreshing & real – all things you are. The fact that you are not too thin, are a mom, have a real budget and try to put together awesome outfits for under 100 bucks makes you way better in my opinion. And you look Gorgeous today too. I am in love with your scarf. You look like an even bigger blooming flowersthan the tulips you are near of.

    By the way I’d love to Guest Post for you. I would put together one or more new, colorful outfits & everything. Contact me via E-Mail if you are interested also and we will talk. =)

  • You left out one reason Alison, “You’re cute as a pickle!” Love this post, so many women can relate including me. Thanks for the openness and honesty. Good luck with Wallis!

  • Awesome post – love it!! =) You’re awesome. I love your outfit. The colorful blazer is perfect and I love the mix of patterns between your scarf and shirt. =) You’re so gorgeous!
    Thanks for the linkup!
    ~Callie
    http://www.creationsbycallie.com

  • Best of luck in the competition! I love how you turned your insecurities into reasons to act!

  • Saxon

    I visit your blog first thing every morning because you ARE a REAL woman, shopping with a REAL budget and living in the REAL world! I can identify with you. You are me! (Well, a younger version of me. ;)) I can’t identify with those high end fashion blogs. They are ones that make me feel bad about myself, like I don’t measure up. Keep up the good work! I’m going to vote for you right now!

  • You’re of course good enough if you’ve been selected, never loose faith in yourself! Your style is incredible and so helpful to people because of its great price point! 🙂

    http://shakesparkleroll.blogspot.com/

  • You are more than enough girl! I think sometimes as women we are so hard on ourselves! Shine on!
    Ashley:)

  • I love how real this post is! I can totally relate because I think we all compare ourselves to others, even though that’s not the best thing to do. I’ve done it and still do. But you ARE good enough! I LOVE your blog and will continue to vote for you in the Wallis competition.
    P.S. Your outfit today is perfection!!! Love love love it!!!

  • You are “good enough” for sure…and I will continue to vote for you…
    It can be discouraging (I like you do not have a huge following) but I have a dedicated following and real connection w my readers…which is WAY more important than inflated follower numbers:) That is why I often don’t enter contests…feelings of failure are NOT why I started or continue to blog.
    Anyway..I think all of us can relate in some way…I say before and I say again..love your blog, love that you are relatable and sweet…thats why I come back.
    Can we TALK ABOUT that scarf. I am OBSESSED…we know how much I love a great blazer and scarf ..slam dunk sister.
    C

  • Oh girl. I think we all struggle with this to some extent. I totally feel ya! You are so cute in that outfit. I’m loving the bright colors!!

  • Alison, coming to your blog always feels like visiting a best friend. I love that about you. And you certainly are good enough to be a Wallis ambassador my friend.

    Your look today is a favourite for me! I love the pattern, stripes, vibrant colours, the locale! You look gorgeous!

    Sue xo

  • I think you just spoke to every woman in the world! Seriously, I have been having those thoughts all week. You are good enough for all the reasons! I have been voting for you, hope you get it!

  • The blogosphere can definitely be tough on the ego. It is like a huge global high school. I think you need to remember you are one of 28 that were chosen (out of a gazillion or more bloggers). Not to mention the loyal followers you have inspired with your site.

    On another note, love the side pony. super cute!

  • The outfit is fabulous and so are you, and better than that, you’re not faking it! Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re not just “good enough,” you’re awesome!

  • Anna

    I know exactly how you feel. This is something I’ve suffered from for many years, but it’s so important to remember that you ARE good enough. In fact, you’re great. And I LOVE this outfit. Lovely post, hun. If you get a minute, I’d love if you could swing by. xo

    http://www.fashboulevard.blogspot.com

  • You’re good enough because you have an AMAZING scarf that only an AMAZING person can wear! I’m dying for it!

    Dropping in from the link-up!

    Sheena
    http://sheenaashlock.blogspot.com/

  • I understand how you feel even I ask myself “why does SHE feel that way…?”

    For me it wasn’t easy to start a blog at my age (I just turned 50) with a limited budget and no experience in posing or writing about myself! Uploading photos… OMG. I still don’t have a blog FB page because I feel kind of embarrassed “showing off” to my “real” world.

    There are so many young, slim, beautiful women with great outfits and huge budget out there.
    I sigh when I check out these “famous” blogs about Céline bags and Prada shoes … but I have learned what it is all about: Real women with a history and unique and authentic style and blogs!
    Within 3 months I have met gorgeous women of all ages and sizes from all over the world.

    That’s why I am here on your blog, Alison and vote for you on a daily basis 🙂

    Annette
    Lady of Style

  • I have the same disease! I think probably most women do to some extent. Great post, thanks for sharing. BTW, love your outfit! Every element is awesome. And I LOVE Bonnie!

  • CC

    Great post! You are definitely good enough and yay for you for pursuing your dreams. I love this outfit, you look amazing!

  • Hey Allison,

    You are more than good enough, you are a beautiful woman! Your smile always brings smile on my face and I always look forward to your posts. Even though I am a novice blogger, you always take time to visit and comment on my posts, which provides me with the needed encouragement to keep going! 🙂

    And before I forget, I love the colors in this outfit! That is one beautiful scarf. 🙂

    – Sukhi

  • Thank you for sharing this! I’ve totally been there with you. The fear of rejection has caused me to keep my mouth shut I situations when I know I should speak up. So cool about Wallis, you look amazing and I don’t doubt at all why they picked you to be a part of this 🙂
    Ginny
    mynewfavoriteoutfit.blogspot.com

  • Love this post. I find that as women we are always trying to “live up to the standard”, instead of being ok with what we offer. As a newbie blogger it is extremely intimidating when people have these gorgeous pictures of themselves and it looks so “legit” and makes for a cleaner blog aesthetic. What I appreciate most about this post is that I can enjoy your writing in addition to looking at your beautiful pics!
    Adrienne

  • neo

    Goodness! I only have one child and wish I had your figure. You look great!

  • If there is any lady out there who says she doesn’t deal with self-doubt, I say- tell me your secrets! I can definitely relate to being the shy, reserved kid who never felt good enough. That’s why I really love blogging- everyone (for the most part) is really positive and encouraging. I absolute love your outfit, and good luck with the Wallis competition! I’ll be sure to cast a vote!

    Kaitlin
    http://www.teaandsequins.com

    • PS- Thanks for hosting the linkup! I’m excited to join!

  • I know it takes a deep breath to share something that personal on a very public forum like a blog, so good on you! Also, I lurrrrrve your outfit today — so pretty and feminine and relatable. 🙂

  • Katie

    I really love this post Alison! I think you are a great choice for the first US Wallis Ambassador 🙂 I love your outfit and your side pony is so cute on you!

    Katie
    Style Diary

  • Congratulations! Also, I feel you on the insecure thing. I am that way too. I think it’s something a lot of women have.

  • I think we can all get caught up in that lie and sadly it can destroy a day, experience or event in a heart beat.
    I think you are good enough and so is this great outfit you put together here
    Brett

  • So glad you were able to reign in that little voice. 😉 We have all been there at one point or another – especially when facing the unknown (and something that you really want). You win some and you lose some, but the important thing is to keep moving. And definitely celebrate that you were chosen as 1 of the 28. Thats pretty awesome!!

    Love your outfit! And I can’t believe you have 3 kiddos – never would have guessed, you look fantastic.

    Candida
    Merch Maven

  • You are beyond good enough! I love that you are real and not all high fashion. I too am like you (in my 40s, not stick thin, no fashion training) and can relate to you. You have a great sense of style!

    Alice
    http://www.happinessatmidlife.com

  • Ana

    Love the pattern mixing here!

  • It’s just a competition Alison….nothing should ever make you feel 2nd best because you definitely aren’t!!! Look at you….you’re so pretty & chic, nobody could tell that you’re already a mom of 3!

    Rebecca
    http://www.redtagchiclosangeles.com

  • I think your post today is beautiful. I know exactly how you feel. I’ve always suffered from low self-esteem and it drives my husband crazy.I”m slowly working on it, but i have a long way to go. They picked you because you aren’t a high end fashion blogger, which by the way I enjoy. I also am not a high end fashion blogger. It’s realistic and the real, normal people can relate. I enjoy looking at those types of blogs but I can’t afford $1000 shoes or bags. I like that you’re genuine and you speak from the heart. I just started following you a week ago, but I enjoy your posts and look forward to them every day. Please keep up the great posts and remember that you are good enough. If you ever need a kick in the pants, then let me know. I’m hosting a link up next thursday April 11. Show me your favorite Spring trend. Hope to see you there. By the way i voted!!!

    Agi:)

    vodkainfusedlemonade.com

  • Ohhh Alison those are definitely all of the reasons you are MORE than good enough, girl! I can understand that feeling though, I also feel that way about many new things that I try. It’s so hard to overcome, and I agree that it happens in the blogging world as well. There is just so much to compare to. But you are fabulous and I’m glad that you see that you are good enough!!!

  • Kym

    I feel like that sometimes, too. Thank you for writing such an honest and inspiring post. It’s always refreshing to me when bloggers write from the heart about things that are difficult to admit (I struggle with that big time).
    Also, your outfit is pretty amazing. I’m loving the coral & stripes, and the flowers are so springy and pretty. It almost makes me feel like we might get spring here soon 🙂

  • You are great! Never doubt that because you have such a great blog going on, great style and your gorgeous. I love your outfit I think it’s perfect especially that orange color! Stunning.

    -Vogue&Heels
    vogueandheels.com

  • I think I have one photo ever where I look anything as good as all of the photos you post on Get Your Pretty On! Love this outfit. You really have an amazing eye for what fashion-conscious moms want and need. You’re an intelligent, honest, and generous person. Yours is really the only fashion blog I read regularly because of how good it is. Thanks for doing what you do, Alison!

  • Alison

    I’ve sent each of you a personal response but I just wanted to say publicly how much every one of these comments has meant to me. I am touched, honored and simply blown away by the responses.

    I cannot thank you all enough and appreciate counting you as friends.

    Alison

  • I can totally relate! Your blog is delightful, you are beautiful and I think you would be an awesome brand ambassador for the company.

    Go girl!

  • I love this post and I can totally relate to all of it. You are a fabulous woman inside and out and totally deserve this opportunity. XOXO!!!

  • I totally hear you! I think a lot of women struggle with this as well, so thank you so much for being so open an honest. At the end, it shows that you are a humble person. This truly shines through in all your posts. I really hope you become Wallis ambassador! 🙂

    Christy
    Sunnywithasideof…

  • Love the print colors and stripes! Looks great next to those beautiful tulips.

    xoxo
    Erin

    The Fashion Canvas
    http://www.thefashioncanvas.com

  • Of course you are good enough. You have a fabulous blog, amazing style, and clearly hold your head high. What more could a woman ask for?! Hope you have a great weekend, lady!

    xo,
    Stephanie
    Diary of a Debutante
    http://www.stephanieziajka.blogspot.com

  • mcarswell

    I can so relate to your post. My inner critic is always running. This is my first time posting, but I’ve been following your blog for awhile now. You seem like an amazing person…real, down to earth, open/honest, and warm-hearted just to name a few. Thanks for your great blog.

  • You so ARE good enough. We all are & I think every one of us struggle with this. I just started a new job, in fashion, with a bunch of lovely young 20 yr. olds…well I am no spring chicken and I felt like an old fuddy duddy (which I am NOT) next to these PYTs. Sigh…So see, you are not alone. We’re women & women size each other up whether we want to believe it or not. Just remember that you are being true to yourself and your followers & we all appreciate your honesty. Hugs!!!

    Debra@stylewisebydebra.com

  • i really hope you win because you represent those of us who are real women and has realistic style! 🙂 I voted for ya!

    ~Chioma
    C’s Evolution of Style

  • Ani

    Alison, what I love most about your blog beside your impeccable style is your honesty. I can totally relate to your daily issues especially on the self doubt. But you are such a great woman and I hope you come under the 5 picked ambassadors for Wallis. And to achieve that I am heading over to FB to vote for you. Fingers crossed I mean fingers ready to vote hahaha.

    http://www.fleurani.blogspot.de

  • This is absolutely stunning! The mix of color, casual toss of scarf and mixture of prints are simply stunning!

    GREETINGS FROM DUBAI
    MRS JACK OF ALL TRADES
    http://mrsjackofalltradesdaily.blogspot.ae/

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  • I admire your courage, admitting that you’re not perfect. This post really struck a nerve because I struggle with “not being good enough” everyday. Throughout my life, these feelings have stifled my ambition and kept me from accomplishing my dreams. I’m finally to a point in my life where I don’t care as much about what other people think. It only took 46 years! I still find myself thinking, “Why bother, there are so many people better than me” but I realize there will aways be someone prettier, smarter, faster, stronger, etc. I just have to keep going and do the best I can. Thanks for your refreshing honesty!

  • Jay A

    I love your blog & I read it every time you post. Sometimes I go back and read/reread my favorites of your older posts. I just tried to vote using your link & I got re-directed to foxnews.com. I’m not sure if the problem is on my end (I’m using my iPad). Is there a website I can go to? Thank you & good luck!

  • Jay A

    I realized my mistake – I hit the highlighted vote word instead of the button : )

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